Buying and Moving in To a New House with Chronic Pain

Boy, were there a lot of ups and downs. I don’t even know where to start – but I do know this will all be best explained through gifs and memes.

I’ve been talking about buying a house for a long time on this blog. That’s because it took us roughly a YEAR. I never expected to spend a year looking for my first home, and I’m so so lucky that my parents let us live with them while we looked. Finding a house wasn’t the problem – in fact very early on I found what I just knew in my heart was THE house – and I’ll write a whole other blog post about how emotional it was to love and lose. This happened a few times, actually. And it was awful every time.

I’ll try to keep the financial bit short because that’s not really what this blog’s about, but I wanted to put it out there because it’s stuff I wish I’d known. My husband and I have always been very good about budgeting and watching what we do with our money. We went through Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace class as a wedding present and I still think it was one of the best things we ever did for our relationship. Dave Ramsey teaches that you should NEVER use credit cards, and especially when you’re young I agree with that….to a point. I remember one lesson very clearly where he addressed credit scores. Having not owned a credit card for years, he tried to check his only to find he didn’t have one. But by saving money and paying in cash/debit, he’d never needed one. Dave teaches that the ONLY time you should ever buy something and not pay up front is for a mortgage. What ends up getting tricky though is that you need good credit to get a loan. Back in Dave’s day, credit came from all sorts of places. You could call up a person’s landlord, doctor, utilities, almost anything and just get good word of mouth. Today you MUST have some kind of credit. We both had steady jobs, we’d never missed a rent payment or even paid late, we’d payed off student loans, and we were making regular payments on a new car. That was so not enough. If you don’t own a home, GET A CREDIT CARD. Get a card with a grocery store or for gas and always pay it off on time. I stand by Dave that budgeting and paying in cash/debit is the wisest way to manage money, but put one regular easy to pay off thing on a credit card – and NEVER use it for anything else. I mean it – credit card debt is about a million times worse than having to wait a while to get a house. It’s a necessary evil though, so don’t believe it when you hear you should just stay away. I felt kind of betrayed because I’d been told that by people I love and trust, and it came back to bite me in the ass. I worked really hard to do what I thought was right, and it wasn’t easy AND it never paid off. That sucks. Don’t do what I did.

^I used to do this webseries on financial literacy for college money. That’s my little sister as the Princess. Good times – I’d love to make another one about buying a house and credit and all that, but alas, I’m not a student anymore and I’m too busy to work for free. See, betcha didn’t know that about me – I have this whole secret passion for boring old finances. ANYWAY.

Alright, now on to the fun pictures. Once we finally did close on the house, there was a lot of work to do. We spent a weekend painting and fixing some things up. I’m very proud to say that I got through all of it with no pain medicine!

My sweet realtor has become a dear friend and she told me today that she thinks I should do a whole blog on how I made over the house. I had another friend tell me I should go into flipping houses for a living. I’m all design, I suck at the actual doing – the beautiful red and white wall is all hand-painted by my mother, all I did was imagine it. But it would be fun to talk about each room. I dunno about starting a whole new blog, but if you guys are interested I might do a mini-series on my home makeover. Yes? No?

My IBS has been acting up very badly, but being only sort of moved in we haven’t had real meals in a while – just sort of eat random things at random times randomly. I know this is really bad but I’m honestly too busy to help it right now. Hopefully in the next few days I can go shopping and start eating like a normal person.

That is if I have any spoons left for meal times.

The pain stayed away until the day we started actually moving in. I left work early to meet the carpet cleaners and I was so late. I’m lucky that Greener Cleaners waited for me and couldn’t have been kinder about the whole thing. But the stress triggered a flare of pain that only got worse as we started hauling in furniture and boxes. I envisioned that moving in would be like this:

But it was a lot more like this:

And I thought sleeping in my new house would be like this:

But it was a lot more like this:

And I reeeeeally didn’t expect the hot water heater to suddenly not work right when we moved in.

Overall, moving in to your first home is a lot less like this:

and a lot more like camping.

But of course, things aren’t all bad. They’re just moving fast and full of surprises. I’m looking forward to the whirlwind settling, because there are a LOT of awesome things about my house. I can’t wait to just live in it, you know?

I have a GIANT closet. This is me getting ready in the morning:

And I can’t wait to get our “mood tile” bathroom floor installed.

And the loft is the perfect place to burst into song.

I’m working on turning the downstairs bathroom into a magical Narnia-esque wonderland. I’ve already glittered the ceiling!

And I’ve already spent some time fireside, my favorite place to be. And Mimi has discovered that there are vents in the floor – her new favorite place to be.

So overall, things are good. Except that I accidentally stayed up till midnight writing this. Fingers crossed I hop in the shower just in time for warm water! (plumber comes tomorrow)

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17 thoughts on “Buying and Moving in To a New House with Chronic Pain

  1. “Daddy, I’m getting married!” LOL…not only was your video educational but it was also entertaining. πŸ™‚ I’d definitely like to see more of your videos. Great job!

  2. Great post! What a great wedding gift idea! And what good advice you gave! I got one card in college and always paid it off every single month. I still have that card! It is my absolute favorite!

    I would love to see some house posts! I’m sorry the rhythm and routine of eating got put out the window for a bit! It will feel good to get back on track AND get some sufficient hot water! XX

    1. Thanks so much! πŸ™‚ I’m excited to blog more on the house, trying to unpack in time for my own housewarming is waaaay harder than expected! Haha. But at least we have hot water now! πŸ˜‰

  3. Yay for your new house! Ugh, I still have to write that letter to the boy and pass it on to you. Sorry, I’ve been buying a new car, healing my leaky gut, and getting situated for a college class (which then cancelled and I had to find another one), but I haven’t stopped thinking about that kid! I take it you have another address now? Can I just email it to you?

  4. Reblogged this on sondasmcschatter and commented:
    LOVED IT—- CAN’T WAIT TO HEAR MORE ABOUT YOUR FIRST HOME–& YOUR EXPERIENCES– HUBBY & I HAVE BOUGHT & SOLD SOOOOO MANY HOUSES OVER THE YEARS & ALSO MANY MANY MANY BUSINESSES OVER THE YEARS— BUT MY BIGGEST EXPERIENCE WAS BUYING A MOTEL & TOTALLY REMODELING IT– & TRYING TO USE AS FEW TOXIC CHEMICALS AS POSSIBLE IN THE PROCESS– —I CAN SAY MY BIGGEST LEARNING EXPERIENCE OF BUYING HOMES– & STARTING BUSINESSES WAS BUYING A MOTEL & GIFT SHOP– THAT THE BUSINESS HAD TO BE TOTALLY REMOLDED & THE BUSINESS TOTALLY REBUILT FROM A BAD NAME!!!!!! BUT WE DID IT!!! AND I STILL HAVE SCARS!!! πŸ™‚ SOOOOOOOOO GLAD THOSE DAYS ARE OVER & WE ARE RETIRED & LIVING IN OUR HOME ON A RESORT ON THE LAKE!!!! πŸ™‚ PLEASE SHARE YOUR EXPERIENCES– LOOKING FORWARD TO HEARING!!! πŸ™‚

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