Things I’ve Given Up

I was once asked what sort of things I’ve had to give up since becoming ill. My knee-jerk response was NOTHING!!! I can’t do colorguard as much as I used to, but I still do it sometimes. Actually a lot of things are harder, but I just changed how I do them. I haven’t given anything up, just re-adjusted.

Then, the other day, I had a thought. When I was a teenager, I used to listen to music and dance around* while I cleaned my room. Now, cleaning, vacuuming, and anything like that usually take a lot out of me. And even on a good day, I always try to conserve energy and strength for “fun” things, not chores.

But I really do miss dancing like that. And I guess I’ve given it up.

What have you given up?

*Disclaimer – dancing while doing chores can be very dangerous. I often scold my husband for dancing while he does the dishes – and with good reason. He has sliced his fingers open (badly) on a knife TWICE doing this. Please, if you do try to dance while doing chores, do so at your own risk.

14 thoughts on “Things I’ve Given Up

  1. The only thing I’ve had to give up is playing the drums, I used to be a really keen drummer, am I sad about it? Yes, but I’ve found new and other ways to get the pleasure out of drumming from other things.

  2. Oh dear, I’ve given up so much it would take a book to write it all down, but I don’t focus on what I can’t do any longer (balance issues and losing my hearing has caused a bit of change), but I focus on what I can do.
    I don’t take things for granted, I live for the moment….not for the day, for this very moment…not the next moment, who knows, things change, but for right NOW! and it’s grand.
    I appreciate even the smallest things, I’m even grateful sometimes for some of the things I can’t do ( for example, I can sleep through anything now since I can’t hear what’s going on….). I am always trying to find things I can do that won’t tax me too much, but will make me feel productive.
    I cherish moments with my husband and cat…and any friends I may see. A drive (or rather a ride now, I can’t drive any longer) in my convertible on a nice warm day…yes I know it’s winter, but it’s not always winter…that is such a special time. Just being able to go to the grocery store is a delight.

    What have I had to give up….well, there is a lot I can’t do any longer. Do I miss them? Sometimes, but not as much as I used to. Am I still happy? Happier! Yes, I have some days that I walk through the bowels of hell, but coming out makes life that much sweeter. I’m more compassionate, and loving. Not only to others but to myself.

    Not to say, it doesn’t catch up with me now and then and I have a big old pity party, but usually I leave the party with a renewed sense of self and appreciation for what I and others go through.

    I hope you get to dance more.

  3. When I have the energy to do a little boogie-woogie in my room (usually in my underwear while deciding what clothes to wear) I always feel immensely happy because its something I just can’t do that often. Little things like that make my day.
    I’ve had to give up a lot. I really miss the youth work in my church and feel sad sometimes that I’m not able to do it but it required more energy than I could give. Then there’s less important stuff like wearing jeans and eating pizza.
    But hey ho, I’ve gained stuff too like inner strength and a wardrobe of brightly coloured pretty dresses 🙂

    1. That’s a very good point. I think with each thing you loose, you also gain something. Pretty dresses sound lovely. And I’m lucky that I’ve (mostly) only had to give up less important stuff. 🙂

    1. I was thinking of you when I wrote this! I know MCS is pretty much founded on giving stuff up. But I also think that, like chronic pain or a stomach condition, you can look at a lot of it was “changing” rather than “giving up.” I’ve had to change how I eat, but I bet I’d call it “giving up” if I had to stop eating a favorite, like chocolate or mac and cheese. I’m sorry you’ve had such a dramatic life change. I keep thinking of your post about the shoes, that one really stuck with me.

  4. Well, I never liked to dance. But I was a real foodie. Loved new restaurants. Now we have to scour restaurants and still hit roadblocks. And darn it don’t they always put that bread and butter on the table! (I deal with food intolerances leading to GI distress, HA, etc)

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